**I've learned very quickly that expecting stuff, even if you feel you deserve it, just leads to broken-heartedness and eventually hard-heartedness down the line, and I don't want that from something I love too much.** One of the most important lessons that I was ever taught on this came from Master Kaz, while we were working in his shop. What he said to me was this: "You can't "expect" things. Your job, as someone who aspires to the peerage, is to be the best peer you can be BEFORE you are given that honor. To know, within your heart of hearts, that even if you are never handed the dubis, that you actions, your bearing, and your manner is of peer-like quality. No one is ever MADE a peer. The Crown, in the best of circumstances, simply recognizes the peer that is before them. Pray that when you receive the honor, it is a question not of MAKING you a peer, but honoring that which you have already achieved."
For me, it shifted the focus from what I wanted, to what I needed to become. And I think it helps when you get the dubis, not to have it go to your head. The peers I have seen that have the most difficulty adjusting are those that never figured out the medallion isn't a magic wand that grants you anything, other than attention. :-)
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Date: 2009-09-09 11:12 am (UTC)One of the most important lessons that I was ever taught on this came from Master Kaz, while we were working in his shop.
What he said to me was this:
"You can't "expect" things. Your job, as someone who aspires to the peerage, is to be the best peer you can be BEFORE you are given that honor. To know, within your heart of hearts, that even if you are never handed the dubis, that you actions, your bearing, and your manner is of peer-like quality. No one is ever MADE a peer. The Crown, in the best of circumstances, simply recognizes the peer that is before them.
Pray that when you receive the honor, it is a question not of MAKING you a peer, but honoring that which you have already achieved."
For me, it shifted the focus from what I wanted, to what I needed to become. And I think it helps when you get the dubis, not to have it go to your head. The peers I have seen that have the most difficulty adjusting are those that never figured out the medallion isn't a magic wand that grants you anything, other than attention.
:-)